Only Self-Remembering can build YOU. It doesn’t really matter what happens in your life. The harder the better. Because, everything that is difficult, requires a special effort. You get nothing real from your usual wants and your day to day bullshit, nothing that lasts. What you do get is so ’wishy washy’.
It’s most useful to listen, if you can REMEMBER YOURSELF at the same time, if you can BE - if you can observe how things affect your mind, emotions and body. To be aware of whether you are IDENTIFIED - or OBSERVING. Then it would be good to listen to everything, to your sisters and everyone. The Work says, ”you can do anything you want, if you remember yourself”. Because, with every effort there, you strengthen the remembering. The remembering is the SHMA, actually. That remembering has to be there at the moment of death. If not, you go to ’hell’, or at least for a time to ’purgatory’. At death ALL IDENTIFICATIONS get RIPPED from you.